Dear Princess Darby,

I am starting to think that there's not a right girl for me !!!!... I'm young only 20, and I can't even find a girl to date for a while let alone find Mrs. Right.... it's so hard for me in my area to really meet any other girls. I've tried the online thing, and just dating through girls my friends know but it doesn't seem to work. I keep telling myself you are almost 21, you'll be able to go out and meet more girls then, but I don't know if I really want to meet some one serious at a bar or club.

I date a lot of girls, it just that the girls I have met are not on the same "relationship" level as I am. I know I'm young and I'm not lookin for a "wife", (if I find her than great), but I just want someone to hold and have some sort of security with than just a hey come over and leave in the morning....

Is it me?!?!?! Am I maybe just being too picky .. I didn't think I was... I'm just sooo ready to find someone one to have to love and hold again :( help ??? advice, anything!

Where's My Queen???



Wednesday, November 10, 2004

Dear Where's My Queen,

Darling, there's no such thing as a "right" age for romance. And, I don't think you should be looking for a "Queen". Queens have so many responsibilities. I think you should be looking for a Princess, they are more fun. But, please, tell me at 20, why you are even thinking of a "Ms. Right" already?!

Everyone has a need to be connected with another, or a group. Although, don't look for a mate for security. There's no security in romance. Look for the whimsy, daydreams, excitement, and the anticipation of love.

One can meet their "heartbeat" anywhere, anytime. Have you tried volunteering, working part time or attending events that that would offer interests to both of you?

Don't lament at 20! You have plenty of opportunities for opening and closing the doors of relationships.

Live each day with the outlook of what it offers. Be active, be happy, be involved.

I agree that you don't always meet the "connection" at clubs, on line, etc. Have you been reviewing Chicagopride.com calendar of events? It offers a full menu of opportunities, especially if your under 21.

And, remember, the holidays are approaching. It's not just for couples. Don't isolate yourself. Holidays are meant to remember their true meaning with family and friends.

I know from your earnest letter that you'll meet someone. Afterall, there's so many wonderful Princesses out there, look, you know one already.

One last thought, if you remember life brings us many mysteries to us. During your life you will meet many "Ms. Right", or "Wrong". Just enjoy yourself, it's part of living and loving.

Have a great holiday, and let me know how things turns out for you.

Princess Darby