I'm new to the city and was wondering what the best way is to meet other gay people for dating. Most of the men I encounter at bars aren't looking for a long-term relationship.

What should I do?



Dear Hopeful Encounter,

Any hopes for a deep and serious relationship will not be found in a smoke filled, loud, dim lighted, provacative environment.

You may find your hopeful encounters where you go to shop, play, volunteer, and daydream. A part-time position at one of your favorite stores or hang outs is a promising avenue to take. I've meet many candidates measuring inseams!

Have you looked into volunteering in an area of your interest? You will find people volunteer for certain associations because their objective have impacted their lives.

One origanization is Horizon. Check out ChicagoPride.com, there may be listings for additional associations, and possibly the Alternative Phone Book, and your religious organization are additional suggestions.

If you are yourself, have fun living and appreciating life, you will attract someone who will relate to you. Everyone wants to be around someone like themselves to be able to develope a relationship with.

Enjoy the fall. There are many events comming up. Do you have your Halloween costume yet? Have some fun, you'll never know who you'll meet!

Princess Darby