Dear Princess Darby,

My girlfriend and I have been together for about 5 years. She now wants a baby.

Now, I don't have a problem with that because I feel every woman should have a least one child of their own. I have twins of my own. The problem is that she wants her husband to be the father, and this will be his first child as well.

I would prefer someone who's not so close to her. My question is: Am I wrong for feeling like this? I believe there may be problems in the furture with this situation.

Love the Baby, But Not the Daddy.




Saturday, November 16, 2002

Dear Love the Baby and Not the Daddy,

Your instincts are on the mark! Sometimes blood is not thicker than water. No matter what the dna and biological makeup is, it could become a problem even a biology major would find a challenge!

No matter the gender of the parents or their relationship, there are not only emotional, parental, but also legal issues that may be involved.

Discuss this with your partner. Would it help to seek counseling and an attorney to discuss the potential issues together?

Watch a few episodes of "Cold Feet", and "Queer as Folk". Similar real life situations are set to script. It's interesting how art imitates life.

This is your life. Work it out and treat it gently. Otherwise you may have to look for a new channel and new characters for a new script.

The holidays are approaching. Enjoy them with your friends, family, and your partner.

Princess Darby