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Hardcover
Publisher: St. Martin's Press
Neil Strauss
ISBN13: 9780312360115
Condition: NEW
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“One of the most admired men in the world of seduction” (The New York Times) teaches average guys how to approach, attract and begin intimate relationships with beautiful women
For every man who always wondered why some guys have all the luck, Mystery, considered by many to be the world’s greatest pickup artist, finally reveals his secrets for finding and forming relationships with some of the world’s most beautiful women. Mystery gained mainstream attention for his role in Neil Strauss’s New York Times bestselling exposé, The Game. Now he has written the definitive handbook on the art of the pickup.
He developed his unique method over years of observing social dynamics and interacting with women in clubs to learn how to overcome the guard shield that many women use to deflect come-ons from "average frustrated chumps."
His tips include:
*Give more attention to her less attractive friend at first, so your target will get jealous and try to win your attention.
*Always approach a target within 3 seconds of noticing her. If a woman senses your hesitation, her perception of your value will be lower.
*Don't be picky. Approach as many groups of people in a bar as you can and entertain them with fun conversation. As you move about the room, positive perception of you will grow. Now it's easy to meet anyone you want.
*Smile. Guys who don't get laid, don't smile.
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| Highly recommended |
| Customer Rating: 4 out of 5 |
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In this crowded genre, Mystery's book is the best out there for attracting and influencing women the first time you meet them. It's full of its own jargon, charts, basically everything you need to know on picking up any woman the first time you meet them.
Some of the techniques are common sense to corny, questionable, and manipulative. Regardless, simply pick and choose what would work best for you. A must own book for smoothing your style with the ladies.
I'd also couple this with one that deals more with handling the volatile nature of women in relationships, as well as big picture advice for creating asset protection if you're planning marriage.
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| Sadly Accurate... |
| Customer Rating: 5 out of 5 |
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Having watched the show, I came across the book and decided to read. I actually have a bit more respect for him than when I was watching the show. The guy has really made a career for himself. Despite that his book is a how to guide on how to pick up women (and fairly accurate, sad to say), I have to admit that he writes it and shows a certain type of respect. I originally thought such blather was about preying on women's insecurities. In fact, I don't know that is what he is talking about at all. I mean, some of his suggestions do amount to trickery. But he does appear to show a certain desire not to get slapped and that is certainly communicated.
Relative to other books on the subject, this is far better. I haven't read some of the pieces that people who have rated this book low have read. However, I don't know that I would agree with others that this book doesn't give solid advice. As a woman who gets hit on fairly often, I feel qualified in saying that some of the most basic stuff is really what men are lacking in their approach. The fast talking stuff, is pretty worthless, except for the saddest portion of our gender. In fact, it doesn't actually matter what you say, it's more how you say it and then how you react after you've got her attention.
If I had a good guy friend who had no game, I would definitely suggest this over others on the subject.
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| Why Mystery's methods will not work for you. |
| Customer Rating: 1 out of 5 |
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The great flaw in the mystery method is that it assumes that the girl you are hitting on in a club or a bar is actually paying attention to you and is following closely what you are doing or saying. Usually, they're not. Women go to these places for the social atmosphere and are having numerous conversations with multiple people all night. I'll bet numerous guys have tried the mystery method only to be repeatedly frustrated as the targets of their "sets" keep moving on to talk to someone else. If a girl in a club is actually paying close enough attention to you to notice the things Mystery tells you to do, then she already likes you and there is no point in trying mystery's games on her.
Now if you try this stuff outside of the bar scene, say, at work or at a social gathering, people will think you are a tool. When you meet people in casual social situations, they expect you to be putting your best foot forward, so if you start using negs, bait and hook, or "freeze-outs" you are going to sound immature. Neg that hot female co-worker of yours and then use a false time constraint, and she will be glad your rude butt is leaving. Freeze out someone and they will simply find someone else more genial to talk to. Mystery seems to think that being slightly rude or condescending will make strangers fight for your approval, but in reality, they will just avoid talking to you.
Overcoming last minute resistance is covered in the last chapter, and it's a felony. The good news is that if you have followed the advice in the previous eight chapters of this book, then you will be dateless anyway and you will not have to worry about this.
The underlying assumption in this book is that it is possible to replace your current personality (which drives people away) with a new personality that attracts people. This is possible to a certain degree, but books like this are not the way to do it. What you really need to do is confront your own issues and find out what it is that causes you to act in such a negative way to begin with, and then address those issues on your own. There is no need for having game if you learn to be a positive, not all about yourself, emotionally healthy person who is attractive in his own right.
The personality mystery wants to give you is not a healthy one - it is the personality of a self centered and clueless man who thinks that all the women he meets will be helpless against his stealthy manipulation skills. But true manipulators can only work their craft after they are in a relationship. Beforehand, this sort of stuff will be picked up on in a heartbeat by anyone you are trying to get to know. Everybody looks for "red flags" in their potential dates, and this book is a handbook on how to give off the red flags saying that you've got serious issues and should be passed on.
Mystery sells his techniques by padding them heavily with all kinds of jargon and off base analysis to make them appear scientific and well researched, but what mystery is actually teaching is some very basic a-hole behavior that your potential dates will pick up on and be unimpressed with. The only game mystery is playing is on the men who buy his book.
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| Not bad |
| Customer Rating: 4 out of 5 |
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A lot of stuff in this book is not for the daily guy, but overall VERY interesting.
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| This method works, period! |
| Customer Rating: 5 out of 5 |
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Fellas, lets talk for a minute. We all want to meet and bed beautiful women, right? Well, I live in the ATL and it's a jungle here. Beautiful women at all the clubs and pretty much everywhere you go to socialize and yes especially the grocery stores and Walmarts. So, I broke up with the fiance a couple of years ago and found myself in my late forties trying to find hot women. Well, to put it mildly I was a little rusty and the game has changed. So I heard about the Art of Seduction on the radio and thought, now there's an idea. Why don't I dig into this seduction game and understand how to really attract women. Well, when it came up in the Amazon search I found all these PUA books. I read them all and I must say this is the best and most direct teaching tool I've encountered on the subject of women. At first I didn't really understand how to apply the techniques in this book but over time it has become second nature. I just put myself in social situations and the women are everywhere. Hugging me and kissing me on the cheek, always happy to see me. Recently, I went to a club and a BBQ on Friday and Saturday and I pulled the hottest women at both venues and scored the digits with no problem. Remember I'm 51 now and the two women I pulled were 31 and 41. Both asked about my age and I told them my age and they were commenting on how good I looked for my age. New clothes, contacts and shaved the beard! Gained some confidence, joined an APA pool league and now things are falling into place just the way Mystery said it would. By the way, I even scored a date with the 41 year old the next day. Went to the movies and had a ball! Oh and on the way to pick her up chatted on the phone with the 31 year old and she's quite interested. So, brethren of the PUA, trust me, follow the instructions and customize the techniques to your understanding and you'll be dating beautiful women too. By the way, the 41 year old is a Trini babe and she came and sat down next to me after I neged her earlier in the evening. I felt kinda bad when I saw the look on her face but it was perfect. She realized I wasn't falling all over her beauty like a punk ass.
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