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Paperback
Publisher: InterVarsity Press
ISBN13: 9780830823796
Condition: NEW
Notes: Brand New from Publisher. No Remainder Mark.
Homosexuality: is it learned, biological or both? The answer to this question deeply concerns parents. They want to know how they can best raise their children. A common belief today is that nothing can be done to foster the development of healthy heterosexual orientation in children. But the clinical experience and professional research of Dr. Nicolosi and others indicates otherwise. In this groundbreaking book Joseph and Linda Ames Nicolosi uncover the most significant factors that contribute to a child's healthy sense of self as male or female. Listening to moving recollections from ex-homosexual men and women who describe what was missing in their own childhoods, the Nicolosis provide clear insight for identifying potential developmental roadblocks and give practical advice to parents for helping their children securely identify with their gender. Replete with personal stories from parents, children and ex-homosexual strugglers, A Parent's Guide to Preventing Homosexuality offers compassion and hope for all those parents who seek to lay a foundation for a healthy heterosexual identity in their children. Features & Benefits * draws from the clinical experience and professional research of Dr. Nicolosi and other psychologists * engages the question of whether homosexuality is learned, biological or both * uncovers significant factors that contribute to children's healthy self-identity * includes personal stories from parents, children and ex-homosexual men and women * guides parents to lay a healthy foundation for heterosexual identity for their children
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| Great Resource |
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This book is the correct and Christian way to deal with homosexual tendencies. It is very useful to assist parents of a boy who struggles, or better yet, is in an environment that could lead to struggles later. We found out about this through Focus on the Family's "Bringing Up Boys" video series - another awesome tool.
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| Because I can't award zero stars... |
| Customer Rating: 1 out of 5 |
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This book is a joke, and anyone believing for one iota of a second that homosexuality can be "prevented" is fooling themselves. Here's a shred of useful advice for you:
Love your kids regardless of their sexuality; they will thank you for it. Do not ask or demand them to change something that comes naturally to them. Homosexuality is not a trend people! It is inherent, whether you would like to believe that or not.
As a straight woman interested in Queer Theory (and someone who has a number of gay friends/colleagues), I looked at this book mostly for the sake of curiosity. As I suspected, it tries (and fails) to pass itself off as "scientific BS" (as one reviewer put it).
If you are a parent worried about your son or daughter's sexuality, and it scares you that they don't fit into the confines of heteronormative society, educate YOURSELF. It is easy to fear what you do not understand. Talk to your kids, don't look for answers in garbage books like this one.
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| Living According to Stereotype |
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"Preventing Homosexuality in Children" is the infamous Dr. Joseph Nicolosi tome. It gets three stars instead of two simply because it lays bare the homophobic mind. It's a sad book,because it leads parents down the guilt trip path should their children end up being gay anyhow (look at Phyllis Schlafly,Dick Cheney,Anita Bryant,Alan Keyes,all who have LGBT children) It's also about making sure children fit in with the "biological mandate" as Nicolosi calls it,and be perfect cookie-cutter children. There's irony in this... if one considers that the LGBT activist Harvey Milk played football in high school,and served in the Navy during the Korean War.
"Preventing" offers some basic advice-
1)Be strict with gender role stereotypes for boys. Be discouraging about femininity and womanliness. Treat femininity as inferior,yet expect them to be attracted to it later on. However,don't use strict gender stereotypes with girls,because it will turn them into lesbians.
2)Fathers should shower with their sons to reinforce masculinity.
3)Fathers are to alienate sons from their mothers. Nicolosi is quite openly envious about the fact that gay men seem to relate better to women than straight men do. A psychiatrist jealous of his hairdresser...
This book IS nauseating. Nicolosi is very insecure,since he's hung up on "traditional" gender roles,and the "traditional" family (both have changed over the centuries) It's very sad. Prevent "Preventing" from being on your book shelf!
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| What happened to loving your children unconditionally? |
| Customer Rating: 1 out of 5 |
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What is wrong with people today, this book is not only a representation of how to destroy your family and reject your child but also how to limit your child thru guilt till they cut their wrists bc their mommy and daddy could never love them just bc they like the same gender. Lets focus on loving our children like God loves us, No Matter What. By the way...you can never prevent your childs sexual nature. Try forcing yourselves to be gay, that is what you are pushing your children to do, pushing be strait. They are who they are, and if you cant love your children no matter whom or how they are then you arent fit to be parents.
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| A GOOD LESSON IN HOMOPHOBIA & HETEROSEXISM |
| Customer Rating: 1 out of 5 |
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How very sad. This book does not rely on any scientific data and fundamentally ignores the spiritual aspects of the homosexual person's journey. "Preventing homosexuality" is as rediculous as preventing heterosexuality which might do humanity a great deal of good given the problems of reproductive irresponsibility in our world. My question is, what is the motivational forces for wanting to prevent or irradicate homosexuality in the first place? The "religious argument" is no long valid and the "natural law" and psychiatric arguments are also invalid. Listen, it boils down to an irrational fear for those who are not in touch with or are running from their own internalized homophobia. For the "true" heterosexual who is fearful of homosexuality or bisexuality - it simply challenges their ego and reinforces the fear that same gender attraction minimizes or threatens their sense of self (i.e. perceptions and beliefs about "manhood" or preoccupational concerns over genatalia. Many homophobic men are fearful of the possibility that same gender attraction may indeeed be arousing and for homophobic women it could very well be the same. The other piece here is that homophobic women and men dare not to yield to their desires and are rageful that others are not fearful and do explore and enjoy those natural aspects of their humanity. Then we have the factor where men do not and cannot fully connect with a women on an emotional level hence making men very vulnerable to sexual and emotional energy with other men. Men are NOT as threatened by women in this sexual and emotional dynamic although many would like to think this. The emotional, spiritual, and sexual dynamic between two humans of the same gender can be very powerful.
It is threatening to both homophobic men and women. Women want an emotional closeness from a man but this authentic connection can often only be from someone of the same gender. The problem is that men are conditioned to be competetive with each other and this dynamic can cloud the sexual connection as one man may be fearful of not being able to satisy another man physically or emotionally therfore feeling castrated. Unlike being with a woman, a man cannot escape the this powerul union with another man yet with a woman he does not have to compete nor does he need to REALLY gage whether or not he is uniting with a female counterpart. If the woman becomes pregnant then he has done his part. There is concrete proof that his manhood is intact and he has fulfilled his obligation as a procreater. Even if there is no furtilization he satisfied himself by releasing sexual tension and he will never truly know how or when he satisfied his female counterpart. His sexual drive overides the sexual experience although we would like to believe there was atrue and authentic connection. The reality is, apart from procreating, a man and woman will never fully connect although we are told by a rather insidious socio-religous construct, thanks to the PHILOSOPHY and not SPIRITUALITY of the Roman Church, that men and women complenent each other in their "opposites." Well, sounds "leathery and lacey" to me and that's fine, but on the other hand, let homosexual people find a deep and abiding connection in their "same-ness." Men do not and cannot fully connect with a woman the way he can with another man. However, we must remember that heterosexual union is valued for its gift of procreation - everything else is just a social construct to help men and women get along and keep order.
I do not advocate that heterosexuality or homosexuality is "better" than the other. I am saying that they both serve important functions on this planet and that they are both natural. Yes, one can procreate with the opposite gender but that is a biological function and while essential for our species, it does not make it totally compatable with the whole of humanity. Sexuality is more than a funtion for procreation. Sexuality is a profound expression of love, solidarity, creativity, and spirituality and not exclusively for heterosexual people. Lastly, for those who believe in a "conversion" from homosexuality to heterosexuality - nonsense! The reality is that the "convert" was not truly homosexual to begin with and may be a "latent heterosexual" (as opposed to a latent homosexual). There are also instances when someone CHOOSES to overtly be heterosexual and sells his/her soul to the "evils" of social oppression hence conforms to a heterosexist structure out of fear and need to be accepted and loved. The last possibility seems to have been the most widespread and the most insincere and damaging because one does not live the truth of one's life and that is totally antithetical to who we are called to be by our Loving Creator. Well, you know what they say about "good intentions!" Thanks for reading and I pray that we continue to EVOLVE the way we are meant to - in mind, body, heart and soul!
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